Bad Behaviour or Mental Health?

As parents, it’s important to recognise that what may seem like “bad behaviour” could actually be a sign that your child is struggling with their mental health. Kids often express their emotions through actions, and these can sometimes be misunderstood as misbehaviour. Here are some signs to look out for:

Signs Your Child Might Be Struggling

• Mood Swings or Irritability: If your child’s mood changes quickly or they get angry easily, it could indicate emotional distress.
• Withdrawal: A sudden loss of interest in activities or isolating from friends can signal anxiety or depression.
• Sleep or Appetite Changes: Difficulty sleeping or changes in eating habits are often linked to stress or anxiety.
• Trouble in School: Falling behind in school or avoiding school may point to emotional struggles.
• Physical Complaints: Frequent headaches or stomach-aches can indicate anxiety, especially when there is no physical cause.
• Acting Out: Defiant or aggressive behaviour may be a way for children to cope with overwhelming emotions.

Dr. Billy Garvey’s Connection Over Correction

Dr. Billy Garvey is a developmental paediatrician who works with families and children to better understand challenges in childhood. In his recent appearance on the All in the Mind podcast, "Bad Behaviour or Just Misunderstood? What to Know About Kids' Mental Health," Dr. Garvey talks about the importance of connection over correction. Instead of punishing children when they act out, he encourages parents to focus on connecting with their child to understand the emotional struggles behind the behaviour. When children feel heard and supported, they’re more likely to open up and work through their feelings, rather than acting out in frustration.

How You Can Help

• Listen and Talk: Create a safe space for open conversations. Ask how your child is feeling without judgment or interrupting. Try asking open-ended questions.
• Stay Calm: Respond with patience and understanding instead of frustration.
• Seek Support: If struggles continue, consider reaching out to a psychologist or counsellor for extra help.
• Maintain Routine: A stable routine can help your child feel secure and less anxious.
• Model Coping Skills: Show healthy ways to manage stress, like talking openly about your own feelings, taking breaks, exercising, and eating well. Don’t forget to build in some self-care for yourself.

Charlotte | Student Wellbeing Program – Psychologist